There is truly no one who can love us like Jesus does, there is no one who understand us like Jesus does. The pain and the struggles we go through within us and in life, no one can comprehend like Jesus.
As i walk with Jesus, this truth becomes more and more evident. The times i spend reading and studying His word, it breathes life in me. Reviving every dead parts within my soul. I always break out into a song praising Him with thanksgiving.
In another words, the verse in Colossians 2:10
New Living Translation
So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority.
International Standard Version
And you have been filled by him, who is the head of every ruler and authority.
I would like to bring your attention to the part complete with your union in Christ and been filled by him.
Those in a relationship will comprehend how it feels, when the partner doesn’t talk to you like they used to , when you are no longer the center of their world how insecure it feels.
Are you married? Are you going to be get married?
This is for you. There is something far more important you and your spouse must know and understand from the dept of your heart and mind!
What happens when a couple fight over a shortcoming of either party. It may be over an addiction – Pornography, drugs, alcoholism, smoking, workaholism, addiction to money and flashy glamorous lifestyle just like those you see on tv,media,movies sort,adultery. ( it can be anything else that can tear the world apart for you both)
Foul words are thrown at each other, some even physically hit each other out of anger, frustration, lots of crying, screaming, welling.. All these are made out of emotions,ego bruised etc. Normal Human nature of responding to heart break. Some to get over it will go drinking, spend their time away from their home with friends who will supposedly make them feel better or infact do activities that will take their mind off the problem.
Truth is the problem doesnt go away does it?! It is still there.
To avoid all this drama, of course they are some who sweep them under the carpet and pretend it doesnt affect them.
Still, the problem hasnt gotten rid off.
My dear friends, earlier we read a verse about being complete in the union of Christ. Jesus is the remedy we all need to have. If i may, i would say Jesus is the reset button to hit when things has gotten out of hand between the couple. He isnt the last resort, He is the one and only cure you and your spouse would need.
Infact this is the very reason why God sent His only begotten son, Jesus Christ, to live among Humans and preach the gospel and share the good news to the people that is being documented by His disciples in New Testament!
We all have our own weakness, we fall for temptations because we are weak! One thing any one of you should do when you have committed something against your partner is to please admit it and seek for forgiveness. Work with Christ to complete you! So no room is left empty in your life, for that sin.
( Shortfall, addiction whatsoever) take place again!
Recognise the area you are weak, do you find yourself weak in woman or man! Avoid making close contacts with any of them!
Distant yourself from them! If you find watching certain movies, films in influencing you the wrong way, stop watching them! I know it sounds like i am making it seem so easy!
Nothing is more important than protecting your marriage from the enemy who is watching your every single moves and knows what is ur weakness! Dont lie to yourself! Be honest! You know what you are hiding and what area you need help!
Jesus isnt here to judge you and condemn you! Infact He is here to be your cure and complete you! Help you be the better husband, better wife, better mother or father!
This is what i challenge you to do for 30 days!
How do we hit the reset button in the relationship?!
1)After seeking forgiveness, both party must ask for each other’s forgiveness.
2) Do not dwell on the former things! DOnt bring up the past and start ur reasoning with God.. Why must i forgive him or her? He doesnt deserve it! The word of God says this
New International Version
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Colossians 3:13, ESV: “bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
3) You dont have the rights not to forgive your spouse!
Because Christ forgave your sins too! Doing what the word of God tells us to do brings great deliverance from the resistance and tension that is built up over the arguments my dear loved ones.
4) I tell you with much love and prayer for you and your spouse. Marriage isn’t possible to last without God and His love. Your love for each other will become just like Christ love for His church and his children. Imitate Christ your lord!
Show Christ Love to each other. Wives, treat your husband with kindness, deal with your hurt and how you really feel about your husband with Jesus! Pray about it! Husband do the same. (Ephesians 5 Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. 2 Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us[a] and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God.)
5) New International Version Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. My dear Brothers, Love your wife not just by buying her expensive gifts but keeping away from opposite genders that is provoking your wife’s love for you in anyway! God has given you and your spouse a special gift of love to look out for each other. we are all designed to have this radar when it comes to protecting our beloved. Nothing is lost when you cut loose those friendships even working colleagues who pose as a threat to your marriage!
Lastly i would like to mention, By the law of God, anyone who sins, they are sinning against God not human! Yet it is the same God who by Grace( undeserved favor) is asking you to follow the 5 steps mention above to restore your marriage and household! Isnt that amazing?! God is love! For those who didnt wait for God to repair your marriages, there is still hope!
Christ is waiting to reconcile with you and complete you with His love and grace. Every single thing that has caused you to stay away will melt away in His presence! Draw yourself close to Jesus and you will see the wonderfully grace working for real in your life! No marriage is on the rocks when God is the rock!